Healing Good

 What does healing good really look like??

Trauma creates changes you don't choose.  Healing is about creating changes that you do choose.

- Unknown

Recently, I have come across quite a few articles, videos, or documentaries where people have experienced hurt or injury from another person or organization.  This hurt or injury was mental, emotional or spiritual or all of them.  The pain and injury from the trauma was deep and certainly life-changing for each person.  I noticed something very interesting in every one of these stories there was a common thread in them that I found to be eye-opening. 

Each of these people told their stories of being injured and the horrible traumas they suffered and about how broken they felt.  These are horrible heartbreaking stories filled with so much sadness and I found myself so angry with the people or institutions who did these horrible things to these people.  Each victim went on to describe how they have spent intentional time healing after the trauma.  This healing didn't happen overnight or in one day.  It was over a period of time.  They each did the work, it was hard work but they were able to heal and now are living their best lives.  Here is what I found to be really interesting in their stories, everyone one of them had the same message to share on the other side of the healing. 

That message is this:  Do not let this bad experience define you.  YES, it was bad. YES, you were injured. But don't continue being a victim.

I think this is a great lesson for us in our everyday lives. I would love to tell you that we are never going to get hurt or injured and that everyone in the world treats everyone with love and kindness and is always thinking about the other person, but that isn't the truth.  We will get hurt and we will suffer at the hands of people or organizations.   It's totally wrong, but it's reality injury happens and it hurts so much and it changes us forever.  BUT we have a choice to make after the hurt or injured.  We can become bitter, angry, hateful and lash out at random times OR we can heal, completely and fully and not be a victim anymore.  We can be the people who help other people because we really truly know what they have gone through and we can stand and help them fight through the pain and heal

When hurt, injury or trauma happens let's learn to get good at healing and moving on so that we can live our best lives to the fullest.  Do the hard work of healing, and get help with from a life coach or a therapist if you need help.  Do what YOU have to do to heal.  Then do not let that experience define who you are.  You choose who you want to be. 

Healing